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How to Practice Self-Control

How to Practice Self-Control

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Do you know the Marshmallow Test? It is a study about self-control. In the study, results indicate that children who practiced self-control have better outcomes in life. Thus, the study proves that self-control is vital in the fulfillment of goals. Indeed, the ability to control our desires, emotions and impulses can ultimately lead to a happier, healthier and wealthier life. But the question now is how to practice self-control.

Here are some tips on how to improve your will power:

1.Believe in Willpower

Willpower is the ability to control one’s thoughts and actions. Believing that you can actually accomplish something gives you a strong determination to accomplish a difficult task. In other words, it is a belief that you have in yourself that you have in your hands the power to create success or failure.

If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.

– Henry Ford

Rather than thinking that you can’t do something, shift your thinking to “I will do it” or “I choose to do it.”

2. Exercise

A new study from the University of Kansas reveals that exercising is a simple way to increase our self-control. Physical activities affect our mood, and this can ultimately affect how people make decisions. The study shows how regular physical exercise altered and improved the decision-making of the controlled group in areas relating to self-discipline such as anger control, healthy eating, spending, studying habits and commitments. The study also reveals how exercise reduced unhealthy habits such as smoking and caffeine consumption.

3. Look at the Bigger Picture

When you look at the bigger picture, you are not just looking at satisfying your desire for now. Instead, you are focusing on your bigger goals and what you ultimately want to accomplish. In short, there is change in the perspective of things. It is easier to divert and refocus. In the end, you will be able to make decisions based on your true priorities.

For example, you have always wanted to have your own car. And your goal is to raise enough money for the downpayment of the car. But a new cellphone model has been released. And you want to purchase one. However, you are well aware that if you purchase that cellphone now, it means a step further away from having your own car. So, what do you do in this scenario? It is so easy to succumb to your immediate desire. But a person looking at the bigger picture will have a different decision.

4.Meditate

Meditation puts us in command of our emotions. Through mindfulness practice, we get to learn to observe our thoughts and feelings. As we begin to become aware and pay attention to the bodily sensations that accompany a specific emotion; we begin to master impulse and behavior control. Awareness and acceptance increase our capacity to inhibit such impulses.

5. Stay Away from Temptation

Assess yourself, are you the type of person who is simply not wired to have excellent self-control? If so, then the best thing to do is to stay away from temptation. Why subject yourself to torture and struggle when you can easily remove it.

For example, you love eating junk foods. Resisting them is a big challenge for you. Then, the best thing to do is not to purchase one. Don’t fill your pantry with junk food. Avoid that aisle in the grocery. If it is not readily available, then there is nothing to eat. In short, out of sight, out of mind. Period.


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Pied Piper

Pied Piper

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Do you know of the tale of the Pied Piper? The Pied Piper is a fairy tale about a village in Hamelin, Germany. There was a rat infestation in the village. To drive away the rats, they hired the Pied Piper to play his magical flute. But after successfully driving away the rats through his music, the villagers refused to pay the piper. This angered the piper and as a revenge; the piper entranced the children of the village through his music. Just like the rats, the children disappeared from the village forever.

When, lo! As they reached the mountain-side, A wondrous portal opened wide, As if a cavern was suddenly hollowed; And the Piper advanced and the children followed, And when all were in to the very last, the door in the mountain-side shut fast.

– Robert Browning, The Pied Piper of Hamelin

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A Delusive Enticement

The story of the Pied Piper may be fictional but the lesson imparts by the story is something deeper. In fact, the word pied piper is now defined by the Merriam-Webster as “one that offers strong but delusive enticement”. Delusive means something misleading, deceptive, false or unreal. Enticement on the other hand is something that lures, tempts or attracts us.

There are many temptations in life. In the Bible, John the Evangelist in his Epistle classified them into three:

  • Lust of Eyes (Materialism)
  • Lust of the Body (Hedonism)
  • Pride of Life (Egoism)

If we are not careful, just like the children, we might fall into the spell of the Pied Piper. Just like fishing, Someone who is fishing will use bait to lure the fish. The fishes then unknowingly take the bait and this will ultimately lead to their demise.

Learn When To Stop

What do we do then? Life will not be as exciting if we will indulge ourselves in some form of guilty pleasure. Well, it is okay to indulge in the little things as long as you don’t overdo it. Remember that too much of anything is bad. You can eat chocolates, sweets, fatty foods and junk foods once in a while but to make it as part of your daily diet is detrimental to your health. It is okay to splurge and reward yourself with some little things every now and then but to do it on a consistent basis despite the fact that it is ruining your budget can lead to unnecessary debt. Cellphones and the internet are invented for our convenience but to make your life revolve around will already affect your relationships with the people around you. The key is learn when to stop before it harms you.

The song Pied Piper by BTS said it all. The song gives a message to the Army, their fans, to become more self-aware about how much they indulge in BTS. It is okay to idolize them however, if it becomes too much to the point that it will affect their daily responsibilities in life, then fans need to learn to stop and control themselves.

Stop. Now stop watching and study for your test. Your parents and boss hate me. Video clips, pictures, tweets, V app, Bon Voyage. I know you can’t help what you like but stop. Interpret the music later. You have so many pictures of me in your room anyway. It’s not just one hour, but it’s a whole year that will disappear.

– RM of BTS, Pied Piper

Learn when to stop before it ruins your life.


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